Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Khitbah (a proposal / proposed to marry)

Khitbah (a proposal / proposed to marry)

Are a men muslim who akan marry a muslimah, let him proposed marriage beforehand because made possible he was is being dipinang by someone else.
In this case Islam forbids a Muslim man woo the woman who was the groom by others. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam forbade a person to buy goods that are being offered (for purchase) by his brother, and prohibits a person who has proposed marriage to her groom to people who ask for her hand or let it leave."
Sunnah see the faces of women who will groom and can see nothing that can be encouraged to marry her. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If anyone of you want to woo a woman, if she could see nothing that can encourage him to marry her then do it!"

Al-Mughirah bin Syu'bah radhiyallaahu 'anhu had proposed marriage to a woman, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said to him: "Look at these women, because it is more worthy to perpetuate (love) between you two."

Imam at-Tirmidhi rahimahullaah said, "Some scholars suggested that the hadith is why they do not see women as the groom does not see what was forbidden him."
Terms, Pillars And Obligations Within Marriage aqad

That said trustee is the person closest to her. And most people have the right to marry is a free woman of his father, and grandfather, and so on upwards. Perhaps also his son and grandson, and his half-brother mother, then his half-brother, and uncle.

Ibn Baththal rahimahullaah said, "They (the scholars) deviation of the trustee. Jumhur scholars include Malik, ath-Tsauri, al-Layth, Imam Shafi'i, and other than saying, "Wali in marriage is the 'residuary heir (of the father), while the uncle of his mother, his mother, and brothers and sisters of the mother has no right to a guardian. "
Required a guardian for a woman. Islam requires the trustee to women as a tribute to her, honor and keep their future. Guardians more aware than women. So for women, there shall be a guiding guardian of his business, taking care aqad marriage.

Should not be for a woman to marry without a guardian, and if this happens then the invalid marriage. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Whoever the woman who married without the permission of her guardian, then the falsehood illegitimate (illegal), marriage falsehood, falsehood marriage.
If someone intercourse, then she was entitled to dower by reason justifies his cock. If they at loggerheads, then the sultan (ruler) is the wali for women who do not have a wali. "

Walimatul Mind (Wedding Feast)
Walimatul 'mismanagement (the wedding) and his law must be simple. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"Selenggarakanlah walimah even if only by slaughtering a goat," the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned people not to hold walimah invite only rich people only, but should also be invited poor people. Because the food is served to the rich alone is ugly-ugly dish.

The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The worst food is the only food in walimah inviting people to eat rich, while poor people are not invited. Anyone who did not attend the walimah, he rebel against Allah and His Messenger "
As an important note, should be invited to the righteous people, rich or poor, according to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam: "Thou shalt not associate it with those who believe and do not eat your food, but those who fear Him" ​​People who walimah invited to attend, then he is obliged to fulfill the invitation.

Rasulullah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "When any one of ye were invited attend an event walimah, so come to!" Fulfilling invitation of walimah its legal compulsory, although the person who were invited are fasting.

First Night And Adab Intercourse
When you first met the groom aqad wife after marriage, it is advisable to do some things, as follows: First: The groom should put his hand on the crown of his wife as she pray for him.
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If any one of you marries a woman or buy a slave then hold top of his head and read' basmalah 'do'akanlah with prayer and blessing as he said:' O Allah, I beg his kindness and goodness of his nature that he had brought.And I seek refuge from the ugliness and evil nature that he had brought. '"Secondly, he should pray two rak'ahs sunnah and his wife.Shaykh al-Albani rahimahullaah said: "It has no back support of the Salaf (Sahabah and Tabi'in).

Hadith of Abu Sa'id Maula (freed slaves who had been) Abu Usaid.He said: "I married when I was a slave. When it I invite several people Sahabahs are the Prophet, among them 'Abdullah bin Mas'ud, Abu Dharr and Hudhayfah radhiyallaahu' anhum. Then came is time for Salaat, Abu Dharr rushed for lead the offer prayers.But they say: 'Ye (Abu Sa'id) who entitled to!' He (Abu Dharr) said: 'Is it right thus?' 'True!' Replied the their. I also forward them lead the prayers. When I was a slave.
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